Stop trying to control what you cannot control, focus on the
things you can control. The reason for loss of hope and unhappiness is because
you have forgotten that there are limitations to what you can influence. We all
have what is called the sphere of influence. Outside that sphere of influence,
you are nobody. So you have to understand that your capacity, your competence
and your capabilities are limited. It is within that influence that you can
create change and difference. Your plans are absolute within that influence but
outside the influence every attempt may lead to frustration. The sphere of your
influence is the circumference of your control, you possess great magnitude of
power within this region, but outside that sphere you become ordinary. You may
have to rely on the outcome of things that are uncontrollable. But this is where
the problem is, when we have to rely on the uncontrollable factors, ANXIETY begins to step in – when people
ignore the things they have power over and worry about that which cannot be
controlled, anxiety is already knocking on the door. As a matter of fact, anxiety
is not thinking about the future, it is
trying to control the future!
Dear daughter, thinking about marriage is good but trying to
calculate the how, when and where, that is where the problem is.
Dear son, building a great business empire is fantastic and I
admire your passion and your guts. But the worry is this, when you begin to
consume yourself about the how, the when, the where - there may be a red flag.
Dear coach, you can drill and prepare your team for the
world championship and it seems you have done everything well, you may not be
able to control the outcome at some point. You will agree with me that at some
point you seem to have done everything well but you were just “unlucky”. People have termed it luck but I call it the uncontrollable factor that determines
success. Have you ever seen a team that had over 70% possession, but did
not record a single goal? This happens a lot in football matches! The reason is
simple; there could just be that particular uncontrollable factor that
determines success.
The term ceteris paribus; all things being equal means that
we can expect ‘so and so’ result based on if ‘this and that’ happens – after doing
all that is to be done by me, I hope, I wish, and pray all other factors beyond my control
works along in my favor. That is why scientific theories disclose that their
conclusions are based on controlled experiments and as such, if the
uncontrolled factors interfere negatively, the theories may not apply any
longer.
Dear reader, it is clear that we can control certain things,
and we cannot control some. One key reason for hopelessness is anxiety. Anxiety
is the dangerous consummation for the future; when you cannot wait for
something to happen.
Anxiety develops when we become impatient for the future. The
reason why we conclude that the future is not coming any longer is because of
anxiety.
Dear friends, deal with anxiety, it is responsible for loss
of hope
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Don't miss #DREAMZTIME with Paul Amusa on the following radio stations:
LAGOS: UnilagFM 103.1;Tuesdays & Thursdays, 6:20am
IBADAN: Diamond FM 101.1; Mon-Fri, 7:50am
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