Hope your week is going on well and great Special welcome to all joining us newly on the network. Good to have you all. Like we say herein if you cannot be here real time ensure you read up so you don't miss a thing. Today's topic is 'No Love Lost' In the course of the teaching if my ideas throw you out of balance, feel free to disagree and we will interactively learn altogether(that's the purpose of this network). Again, feel free to comment, interject and highlight areas of interest in such a manner that does not disrupt the flow of the teaching. In the end we should all have a great evening. So let's begin....... Love is such a thing even though it doesn’t cost a thing but it sometimes cost lives: in the movie 300, two powerful kings went to war because of a woman. Sometimes it costs cities: Alexander the great almost moved his capital from Athens to Egypt because of a woman. Sometimes it costs ambition; one time U.S Secretary of state, .Miss Condoleeza Rice referred to President George Bush as 'my husband' in a press briefing. (a honest mistake coming from an unmarried woman) I leave the rest to your imagination The phrase ' No love lost' is used to describe ill will and extreme animosity or hatred between parties such that they could barely stand each other. So what is the connection with LOVE you ask? Yes, that phrase had an original meaning before now. In the 1500s, the phrase was also used to describe extreme affection. In the sixteenth century, no love lost could mean that the couple either hated each other equally or loved each other equally. Unrequited love was considered love lost, so if two people’s sentiments matched in intensity and amount of regard, whether love or hate, then there was no love lost. Around the year 1800, the term no love lost began to refer only to a situation in which there is ill will between two people. So I am basing this teaching on the earlier meaning. You may ask again, why choose old English meaning over present day meaning? For the clarity of the message; in 2003, American actor Mel Gibson produced a popular box office breaker titled 'Passion of the Christ'. The title did not connect with the message because passion meant love but he explained that the old meaning of the word was in fact 'suffering and pain'. The present day English language is just about 500 years old. A lot of meaning has been lost in generational transit. It is a fact that present native Brits would not be able to understand the written/ spoken English of 6 centuries ago or more. Even our local languages here in our country suffer from same fate as people move upcountry and into new age and times, it changes accent and many times changes meanings. One fatal disconnect of language is 'inability to capture entirely everything' With this in mind, it is fair to say the English language just like every other language cannot completely interpret words, feelings, situations and phenomenon. Language is a limited expressionist. I love pounded yam. I love my wife. I love my mother. I love my country. I love my job. I love God. I love my car. I love that movie. I love flying. I love my kids. I love mathematics. I love the house...etc You will agree with me that the feeling all these brings differ yet I have used love to describe many different feelings simply because of the 'incapability of language to limitlessly understand and capture my varying degrees of affection' Obviously you cannot love your wife just as your car or food, neither does your love for your mother equate love for your wife. They are different intents and emotional experiences all lumped up in one word. What a confusion! Therefore love is first of all an emotion that has been bruised, degraded and reduced by language. In a bit to interpret what is beyond our understanding, we must of necessity bring it to our shores of knowledge. For you to explain advanced mathematical concepts to a 6 year old you must degrade the concept to his absorbable format using simple analogies. So this is what you must know *Love is a concept designed and demonstrated by a superior being therefore we need language to help simplify the feelings however same language bastardizes it Love is like a local wrap of baked bean (moinmoin) in layers. As you are removing the outer layer you are faced with inner layers. Meaning all you have ever known and all you know is not all love is about. There is a lot more you do not Love is a curriculum Love is only best expressed to the extent that I know, am taught and understand the subject. I cannot outperform love beyond my 6 yr old brain. That is why to help me understand love, society reduced it to romance, sex, kisses and hugs, belly butterflies, goose pimples feeling, orgasm, cloud nine theory etc. I see an attempt to teach a syllabus but we hardly even scratch the surface. Love is therefore not optimized. The reason is simple, Love as a curriculum is not a subject. Love is a person. Love is tricky Love is a phenomenon everyone agrees to know little about but think they know all about. That explains the record level of divorce in marriages, and increasing unhealthy relationships. The oxymoron- The more you look, the less you see. Love is filling Everyone has a hollow in him/her that only love can fill. Never mind, the creator made you that way. They may hide it or suppress it or divert it but it's a hollow with a lock and key mechanism. Only the right key opens that door. If you insert the wrong key or the right key into wrong lock as the case may be, the key may get stuck or it damages both the key and the hole. They just won't fit. Do not let current realities make you think flowers, jewelries and potato salad dinner can turn to the right key. 30billion account may not be the right key so also is a red account. Bentley may not turn out to be the right key so also is Toyota Camry 2.2. Your choice of key is not a generic choice. It is your lock that determines your own key not media not peer. So how do you know your lock? You cannot know the hollow until you know the person who put it there and that's God. You must first come to terms with your real self, potentials, life purpose, strengths, weakness, gifts, dreams, desires, character, pain and passion in God. It is this knowledge that forms the basis of the assessment of the key. When the right key comes you will know. It will lock in not crack or grind the teeth. Even when it is not perfect fit, it perhaps just needs some edge smoothening. So your problem is not first that you need a key , it is that you are a hole who doesn't know what key fits. So you keep trying out different keys till you spoil the lock. For the married people on this network, congratulations you already have a key. You're locked in. For singles and those in relationships....pay attention to this is there is that person out there who is your emotional match. He will surrender his dreams to accommodate yours. He will inspire you, love you, give you, challenge you, bless you, defend you, protect you, sacrifice for you, take care of you. She doesn't see an option apart from you, she will win you, make you, encourage you, stretch your thinking, build with you and build you up, she is adamant about you, believes in you, she perceives she had no life outside you. He/She considers YOU as their purpose. They came here to do life with you and if they don't they know it's a big miss. That's your key but you know what we have been told we can't find nobody with all these altogether. I agree with you. There is such a thing as that but that's why it's called LOVE. It is yet to be maximised. It is a curriculum we will unravel it till we die. Cheers, Paul Amusa |
Wednesday, February 14, 2018
NO LOVE LOST (VALENTINE SPECIAL)
